Anal Sex Tips From Women

Start with cunnilingus.and a finger

The very very best way to go about anal is to begin orally: for me at least, a finger adult amateur video in the ass makes cunnilingus about a million percent more enjoyable. a few orgasms into the session, another finger can be added. a few minutes of this, and youīll be practically begging for adult amateur video anal sex. and youīll be both physically prepped and mentally ready for it.

Intensely intimate act - Anne, Age 35, Nova Scotia, Canada

I tried anal sex seven years ago with adult amateur video a former boyfriend. It was a spur of the moment decision, no lube, no nothing. He got inside me gradually, uncomfortably. and then I asked him to get out. There was nothing pleasurable adult amateur video about it. After that, I had two more boyfriends who were very interested in anal penetration and stimulation. I let one boyfriend stimulate my rosebud, but found nothing pleasurable from it, in fact, adult amateur video all I could think of was thereīs a finger up my ass! And again, this was with no lube. I refused to engage in any anal stimulation with these other two partners, giving adult amateur video or receiving.

That all has changed with my current lover and partner. I feel a deep connection with him, which has allowed me to let go of my inhibitions and trust him adult amateur video and the situation. Most importantly, before we ever tried anal sex, my partner communicated his desires to me, desires heīd had for a long time but had told nobody. He felt safe enough adult amateur video to talk to me about them because I had been so open in talking with him about sex, sexuality, and sexual desire. He told me about all the research he had done on adult amateur video the topic- for example, use tons of lube (if you think you have enough, use even more!) and that the woman needed to be in total control of the situation. His understanding of adult amateur video the most safe and pleasurable way to do it, and his respectful and thoughtful communication of that (rather than in a laviscious, crude way) gave me the courage and motivation to try it adult amateur video again.

When we finally did do it, he emphasized that I was in total control, and he was absolutely respectful and sensual in his actions and communication. Although I couldnīt handle his adult amateur video being inside of me for too long (Iīm anticipating and hoping that this will change in the future!) , it felt very pleasurable (and rimming- yum- oh, that felt gorgeous too) , and adult amateur video it also gave me *intense* pleasure to know that I was fulfilling a long-time desire of his. Most importantly, engaging in anal sex with him was an intensely personal and intimate act, and adult amateur video made me feel much closer to him, perhaps because I had opened myself up to him in a such a vulnerable way and had trusted him. Likewise, he is beginning to trust me adult amateur video also. I engaged in anal penetration with him (with my finger) - something he also had desired. We hope some day to engage in much more anal play in the future, and to adult amateur video up the ante so to speak!

My partner has gotten me more in touch with my ass than any man ever has, and I am both grateful for that and excited by adult amateur video it! The second time we did it, we used mirrors so that I could see him behind me-- views Iīd never had before. This was *totally* arousing. I wish we had taken pictures. adult amateur video Now, Iīm scanning the internet on a regular basis for pictures and stories of anal sex, and longing for the next time when we can touch one another in that manner again!

adult amateur video Explore each other - Sharon, Age 38

What tips can I offer on the subject of anal sex?

First: I think that we as women need to discuss anal sex beyond adult amateur video and outside of the context of women being penetrated by men. This context is too narrow.

Second: To enjoy it you need: lube, patience, the right lube, to feel safe, self-awareness, more adult amateur video lube, a willing partner, a patient partner, communication, knowledge of your partner, curiosity, and trust.

Lube:

Lubrication is essential when you first experiment! If you are starting to explore this aspect adult amateur video of love making it is essential that both partners become familiar with the sensations of both giving and receiving this form of loving touch. By the way: not all lubricants are the same. adult amateur video I like sesame oil and Astro-Glide.

Relax:

My second boy friend introduced me to anal play when I was 20. The first time I invited him in to my bed he adult amateur video rather gently put the pad of his thumb over my anus when he was eating me out. I was quite startled and momentarily fearful by the sensation at first. But he did not adult amateur video try to penetrate me and within a few of minutes it felt normal. He varied the thumb pressure a bit from time to time and he moved his thumb around a bit. I adult amateur video felt good. Then we changed position and his hands went elsewhere. Looking back this was the turning point for me. I felt safe when he touched me back there and everywhere else.

adult amateur video Explore yourself:

Later that evening I tried touching him in a similar manner and he responded favorably. My curiosity about exploring anal sensation further was activated. Soon I experimented with anal penetration adult amateur video when I masturbated. Point of advice: Start small and use lots lube.

Explore each other:

The next step in my discovery process was reading about prostate massage in some book. That adult amateur video night in the middle of a restaurant I asked my boyfriend if he wanted a prostate massage when we got back to the apartment. I then had the dubious honor of explaining what adult amateur video I had in mind. He said that it sounded interesting and that he would like to give it a try some time. But he was obviously a bit nervous about the idea. That adult amateur video night my boy friend explored my anus with his fingers for the first time. The next morning I woke up EARLY, my boyfriend was sound asleep (he was not a morning-person) . I adult amateur video lubed up my hands and I woke him up orally and proceeded to give him his first prostate massage.

Patience:

Eventually I found the courage to have my boyfriend penetrate me adult amateur video anally. That experience was the most joyous loss of virginity of my life. We were relaxed, trusting, prepared, and ready.

Warming up with lube - Carrie, Age 43

Guys, pay attention adult amateur video to the girls on here--they have it right for the most part.

My husband and I have been enjoying anal sex for more than 5 years now, and itīs great but only adult amateur video if both partners are considerate. The man, especially, needs to be patient. Robīs cock feels great in me, but only after 10 or 20 minutes of foreplay and LOTS of lubricating.

Hereīs adult amateur video a tip we learned: Before we begin, he takes two syringes from an old Delfen foam birth control kit and fills them with KY jelly (from a tube) . These syringes are clear adult amateur video plastic, they come apart for cleaning and they are very smooth.

Then I let him start by massaging my anus with the really slippery KY that comes in the bottle (not the adult amateur video tube stuff) . He uses a latex glove because no matter how clean I feel, it still grosses me out for him to put his bare fingers on (much less IN!) my anus. adult amateur video Once Iīm relaxed (and usually moaning a little) he starts putting his fingers into me. When I tell him Iīm ready, he slides each syringe into my butt and fills me up with adult amateur video KY jelly.

By this time Iīm ready, and he can put on his rubber and lube up his cock with some of the KY from the bottle. He also puts some more adult amateur video of the bottle KY around my anus. I canīt emphasize enough that you have to use a LOT of lube.

Once heīs done all of this, his cock usually slips right into adult amateur video me with no resistance or pain. Maybe some couples need to work it in and out some, but it goes right into me. If I feel any pain at all, Rob senses it adult amateur video and stops immediately.

Anal is a lovely, very intimate way to have sex. I wish you much enjoyment if you decide to try this with your lover.

Start with fingers and adult amateur video vibrators - Age 23, England

Letīs be honest, itīs a bit naughty, anal sex. Thatīs a turn on in itself. Men also appreciate that itīs quite rare for a girl to like adult amateur video it, so they tend to get quite excited at the prospect (bless them) . Donīt let them rush in. Warm up properly and for Godīs sake, LUBE. I canīt stress that enough.

adult amateur video I lost my anal virginity to a bloke who was pretty selfish and probably not that experienced in the area (with hindsight) . It hurt. Lots. Why? We had no lube and he adult amateur video didnīt take his time. Consequently I wasnīt relaxed and it almost put me off. Almost.

Still with burning curiosity and the belief that it would be amazing with the right person, I adult amateur video tried it again. The second time was with a different bloke who knew what he was doing and it was an incredibly intense, full feeling that I enjoyed immensely. He played around with adult amateur video the area for ages first, then lubed, then slowly eased his cock in. It took about 5-10 minutes for him to fully penetrate because he would insert it an inch or so and adult amateur video wait, then pull out and push a bit further and wait etc. etc. until I was fully relaxed (and very turned on!) . After that, full penetration was easy and intensely pleasureable!

adult amateur video Prior to trying anal sex with a bloke Iīd experimented with toys and my own fair hands. I recommend fingers and anal vibrators to start with, and for a really amazing orgasm, use adult amateur video a vaginal vibrator at the same time and, if you can manage it, stimulate your clit with yet another vibrator. Sounds complicated but itīs worth it. It also get you used to having adult amateur video something up your arse because it is quite a weird feeling at first and psychologically, it takes a bit of getting used to.

Stick with it, is my last piece of advice. adult amateur video Itīs a unique feeling that is completely different to vaginal sex and worth experimenting with. Just donīt forget to lube.

Listen to your lady - Nebraska

All I can say is adult amateur video that you guys need to listen to your women. I have had more than one experience with men that donīt listen when I am giving them directions on positions and speed. I happen adult amateur video to enjoy anal sex alot, but not if I am in pain. The biggest tip that I can give you men is to let her lead you, even if itīs not the masculine adult amateur video thing to do. She will only be leading you for a short time before you can take up the reigns and take the wild ride if you do it right.

Clearing the adult amateur video Way - Age 27, South Carolina

I use an enema early that morning when I know we are going to do it that night. Or Iīll take a gentle laxative the night adult amateur video before. That way in the morning Iīm all cleaned out. Trust me it helps to know that nothing is in there while he is going in. And like these other women said, get adult amateur video more lube. Makes everything feel so good!

Girls Love the Lube - Jude, Age 30, UK

A simple rule to remember before having anal sex: Too much lube is almost enough. adult amateur video Always put more lube on/around your partnerīs anus than youīd expect to use.

Unvarnished Truth - Los Angeles, Age 35

Lube of course is very important. I did notice a few adult amateur video who forgot that all important thing. Spit does not work fellas; sorry, wrong answer. There is no lube in my asshole and all though I really enjoy anal I do make sure all adult amateur video is lubed and very clean first.

As far as watching pornos is concerned not a good idea. Pornos are made for men not women and they edit out the parts where, like adult amateur video one of the more tactful gentlemen put it, patience is a virtue.

Girls in pornos are simply pretending to like it most of the time. After all they are being paid to adult amateur video be good actresses. There are many things going on behind the scenes you are unaware of. After all it is just a movie and not real life. Now for the good stuff. Personally, adult amateur video I love to be licked all over and this includes my asshole especially when a man fucks it with his tongue. Fingers are nice if used gently and not rammed up me without adult amateur video proper lube. Toys can also work well with me if used properly. Thing is you need to ask questions especially if it is your first time having anal with a lady. Also, please adult amateur video make sure you are very hard before you try or else you will hurt the lady.

To Enema or Not to Enema - San Francisco, Age 52

One woman advised to adult amateur video use the bathroom before anal sex. I have found it is cleaner if I have not had to use the bathroom for at least an hour before having anal sex. Also, having an adult amateur video enema before anal sex may make the woman more susceptible to bacteria introduced into her colon if she participates in unprotected anal sex, so one should consider if this is the best way adult amateur video to proceed. If a condom is used, an enema is unnecessary anyway, isnīt it?

When the man is entering me, I push out, as if I am trying to void. Doing this adult amateur video relaxes my sphincter muscle and opens my anus. If we have used enough of my lube plus KY to make me nice and juicy, he will slide right in.

I have some adult amateur video of my most astounding orgasms during anal sex. There are so many nerve endings in the anus, the stimulation is extraordinary. Also, it seems that men get extremely excited by women who love adult amateur video anal sex, so the emotional atmosphere is super-charged.

Takes practice - New York

The first time I did it, I remember my boyfriend just sticking it in and I had the adult amateur video worst pain. Sex was a dead issue after that! But a few months later, I opened my eyes. I started with lots of lube and a small vibrator. Eventually my boyfriend worked me adult amateur video up and I had anal sex for the first time. Itīs not something we do all the time, but if we are drunk or loose ourselves a little, we will do it. Sometimes adult amateur video I am in the mood for it. I also have begun penetrating him a little. He has the best orgasms when I do it. Donīt be afraid, just go slow and relax. LUBE adult amateur video LUBE LUBE

On my stomach - Age 20, Riverside, CA

Lying flat on my stomach is better for me when my husband inserts himself. After a couple minutes of going slowly adult amateur video he can fully thrust himself at any pace he wishes.

On his knees - Age 18, North Carolina

I always like to start out with a deep session of getting eaten adult amateur video out. just to get hot and wet. The best position Iīve came to love is me laying on my back, with my future husband on his knees between my legs. It doesnīt hurt adult amateur video at all, it only feels great. He plays with my clit while heīs making love to me anally, this makes the orgasm more intense and hard. Oh, and donīt forget, lube, lube, lube, adult amateur video lube!!!

Practice by yourself - Age 30, North Carolina

I recommend, first and foremost, patience and lots of lube. Experiment with different lubricants, K-Y is not the only lubricant out there. adult amateur video My personal favorite is I-D Glide.

Experiment by yourself in the shower using a small dildo and lots of lubricant. Do not be afraid to enjoy the sensation or be shy about adult amateur video asking your partner. It turns out when my husband and I saw anal sex in an adult movie, we both ended up admitting we had been thinking about it for weeks (think of adult amateur video all the fun time wasted) .

Go slow at first. I personally like to enema first and shower. That way there are no inhibitions about the gross out factor. That way you adult amateur video BOTH are free to enjoy the experience.

On your side - Anna, Canada

1) You need and want to use lube. It may be painful the first time but ahhhh. once adult amateur video you try it and if itīs done right you will love it!

2) Always stimulate the anus before, be it with a finger or whatever.

3) Lying on your side is adult amateur video much easier for you and for the guy. Since it is very tight and new this is easier and better for both make the experience more fun. As you get used to anal adult amateur video sex then you can work your way to sitting on top of your man.

4) ENJOY!!!!!!! It is an incredible feeling to cum while youīre having anal sex!!!! YUMMY!

PS: If adult amateur video you fear that anal will be messy and youīre very nervous about it, get an enema kit!!! Cheap @ Wal-Mart and no need to be ashamed.

First poop - Nicole, Florida, Age adult amateur video 22

Make sure you poop first or else his cock will compress all your poop and itīs gonna be really hard to shit.

Try on your own first - Annabel, Chicago, adult amateur video Age 19

The first time my ex and I did it, it hurt. I asked him to stop and we didnīt try again. Now that I am single, I think about it adult amateur video a lot. I read up on the subject and I learned a lot of things I wish I knew the first time I tried it.

After some research I decided to get adult amateur video myself a small dildo and try it on my own. I got lots of lube and I masturbated for a while, and when I got really turned on I went for it. I adult amateur video was really relaxed and I went very slowly at first. It wasnīt long before I was inserting the dildo as far and as fast as I could. All it took was some getting adult amateur video used to. I recommend trying it with small toys and your finger before you go in with the penis. Itīs just too large. If your lady is shy about trying it with you, adult amateur video ask her if sheīd like to do it alone, see if she likes the sensation, she might be at ease when she realizes it is really pleasant and relaxing.

Another thing I adult amateur video recommend, talk about your concerns. I bet most women might be shy to try it because they are afraid you might get grossed out. Explain to them that no matter what happens, it adult amateur video wont turn you off, and youīre understanding of the fact that the anus isnīt the cleanest area of the body, even after youīre showered.

Make her trust you, show her that you adult amateur video care for her and no matter what you will stay just as attracted to her as before. Insecurities for women ruin a lot of good sex.

Get wet - Poplar Bluff, MO adult amateur video

always find that anal sex is a lot less painful the more turned on I am. I never let my husband hit the back door until the front door is sloppy wet. adult amateur video

Hop on top - Australia, Age 20

As a woman who really likes anal sex, my best bit of advice to first time girls is sit on top of your guy adult amateur video so you are in full control. It can be a teeny bit awkward but it means youīre in full control of how far/hard/fast things go. Plus, he can play with your clit and adult amateur video pussy while you fuck him. It drives guys wild.

Donīt ignore the clit - Dallas

Be sure she uses the restroom beforehand! You donīt want anything on yourself when you pull adult amateur video out, do you? Ugh. Anyway, I absolutely canīt do it unless Iīm getting some sort of clitoral stimulation at the same time. As long as thatīs going on, itīs fun. Get her to adult amateur video use a vibrator, or even a dildo while youīre busy back there, and it should be pleasant for her.

Listen up! - Karen, Michigan, Age 22

Patience! and Plenty of KY! adult amateur video Start slow with something small. Make sure she knows that she/he is in charge and if they say No, or Stop then you immediately stop. It may not work the first time but adult amateur video if she trusts you, and youīve listened to her in the past, sheīll be willing to try again! Hello fans!

Stimulate the clit - A chick who likes it, New York, Age adult amateur video 29

My boyfriend and I have been doing it for a while. First step is to start small. For instance, use your lubed up pinkie finger during oral sex or any other adult amateur video clitoral stimulation. Itīs also really good to use a small vibrator/dildo or something like that.

The most important is clitoral stimulation, I think if you play withher clit during any kind of adult amateur video anal play (including anal sex) she WILL COME REALLY REALLY HARD -- like fireworks will go off an violins will play. This will make her want it again. Thereīs my two cents.

adult amateur video Dos and Donīts - mjcat, Ohio

What you need to get started:

· Patience, lots of lube (I recommend K-Y, itīs what the doc uses lol) , and intimate knowledge of your adult amateur video partner!

Dos:

· Do talk about it a lot!

· Do be gentle in manner and action. Let her tell you how she would like it.

· Do experiment slowly with fingers adult amateur video and small toys, and remember lots and lots of lube!!!

Donīts:

· Donīt be pushy.

· Donīt be disappointed if the first few times it doesnīt end up in the end the adult amateur video way you wanted it.

· Donīt give up. If she is willing be persistent and always gentle and supportive. Try, try again. Believe me it will work and both will have the greatest adult amateur video pleasure either could have ever imagined!!!

Wash up first and lots of lube - Anonymous woman, NY

I never gave it a second thought. Me and my guy never even talked adult amateur video about. We were fooling around one time, and it slipped in. We didnīt pursue it, but because I was so wet at the time, it didnīt hurt. I was interested in trying it adult amateur video fully, so I suggested getting some anal-specific lube, and it *really* worked well. It slipped right in with no pain. Never try it without lubrication, thatīs the biggest key.

He did it adult amateur video very slowly, because the pressure inside can be uncomfortable if it goes too fast on first entrance, as well as any normal discomfort of having something a couple times the size of your adult amateur video asshole plowing in. This is something that takes a lot of relaxation and trust for a female who is an anal virgin. If your girl shows in other ways that she is into adult amateur video new ideas, this might be easier. If she feels gross about it (it is after all her ass) prepare her by showering together so she feels *clean*. I read on a gay website adult amateur video somewhere that the person on the receiving end should make sure they shit before they try it, so you might want to gently suggest that as well. All in all it wasnīt a adult amateur video bad experience for me and it certainly wasnīt painful.